The Parable of the Trapeze & Transitional Phases

The Parable of The Trapeze

Sometimes, I feel that my life is a series of trapeze swings. I’m either hanging on to a trapeze bar swinging along or, I’m hurdling across space between the trapeze bars.

Mostly, I spend my time hanging on for dear life to the trapeze bar of the moment. It carries me along a certain steady rate of swing and I have the {false} feeling that I’m in control. I know most of the right questions, and even some of the right answers. But once in a while, as I’m merrily, or not so merrily, swinging along, I look ahead of me into the distance, and what do I see?

I see another trapeze bar looking at me. It’s empty. And I know, in that place in me that knows, that this new bar has my name on it.

It is my next step, my growth, my aliveness coming to get me.

In my heart of hearts, I know that for me to grow, I must release my grip on the present well-known bar to move to the new one.

Each time it happens, I hope—no, I pray—that I won’t have to grab the new one. But in my knowing place, I know that I must totally release my grasp on my old bar, and for some moments in time I must hurtle across space before I can grab the new bar. Each time I do this I am filled with terror. It doesn’t matter that in all my previous hurdles I have always made it.

Each time I am afraid I will miss, that I will be crushed on unseen rocks in the bottomless basin between the bars. But I do it anyway. I must. Perhaps this is the essence of what the mystics call faith. No guarantees, no net, no insurance, but we do it anyway because hanging on to that old bar is no longer an option. And so, for what seems to be an eternity but actually lasts a microsecond. I soar across the dark void called “the past is over; the future is not yet here.” It’s called a transition. The only place that real, deep change occurs.

I have a sneaking suspicion that the transition zone is the only real thing, and the bars are the illusions we dream up to not notice the void. Yes, with all the fear that can accompany transitions, they are still the most vibrant, growth-filled, passionate moments in our lives. And so transformation of fear may have nothing to do with making fear go away, but rather with giving ourselves permission to “hang out” in the transition zone — between the trapeze bars — allowing ourselves to dwell in the only place where change really happens.

It can be terrifying. It can also be enlightening. Hurdling through the void, we just may learn to fly.

Excerpted from Warriors of the Heart by Danaan Perry

<p>Winter solstice. <em>Photo by Julian Stratenschulte/Dpa/Getty</em></p>

I found The Parable of The Trapeze to be completely relevant right now! It came up in my Health Coaching Work, and it was like a mirror starring back at me. I felt compelled to share– hoping it resonates with you as well.

In this moment, we are in a Global transition! We didn’t know Covid-19 was coming. We didn’t know our plans would shift and that our ordinary life would be totally disrupted. The momentum of this virus has collectively moved all of us, as a species, from one reality to the unknown, Together.

With the integration of social distancing we were pushed from stable ground and forced to reach towards a new bar. A new normal. Holding on to the old bar, {the old way} is no longer an option. We are literally in the midst of re-learning to fly {just like a trapeze artist}. The lesson here is to sit inside the uncomfortable.

What I’ve noticed in my life is this; This virus is uncovering love, stillness, generosity, innovation and slowing down.

It’s also revealing the holes in our society. The virus is shining a light on those left unprotected, under served and under nourished. Those that always needed our help. It’s exposing all of the ways we fill our day {and our life} with things that don’t matter, with relationships that don’t serve us.

As I sit here in the transition, in the space between, I try to point my attention to this: What is this transition teaching me? How can I serve others? What am I being called to do? What new traits will I integrate into the person I want to be on the other side of this?

I’m navigating this new normal as unsure as anyone. I’m the sort of person who runs from transitions. Who quickly gets from Point A to Point B avoiding pain and the growth that comes with it. I’m hoping to come out better on the other side. I’m hoping and praying you will to.

Sending Love & Light Y’all!

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